Balance? I’m Just Trying Not to Drop Myself | Ladies of Hive Contest #294

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Ever heard someone ask how women balance family, work, and themselves?

Balance sounds so… elegant. Hm, fancy!

Like, dude, I am standing peacefully with a green juice in one hand, my emails answered, dinner planned (and executed), the house clean, and my emotional life neatly folded in a drawer. 🧞‍♂️🧞‍♀️

P-lease.

Truth?

Some days it feels like I’m balanced.
Other days I am answering messages while cooking, thinking about work while spending time with family, and remembering at 4pm that I have only had coffee and one biscuit.
Most days I’m holding on for dear life. (Same same but different type of HODL)

The thing is, I don’t think I balance everything.

I rotate.

This week, work needs me.

Then family needs me.

Then my body starts acting dramatic because apparently it also wants attention.

And so, I have had to learn this lesson the hard way:

I am also one of my responsibilities.

Yes, you heard me.

Now say it with me… slowly:

I am also one of my responsibilities.

Not after everyone else.
Not only when there is time left.
Not only when I am already exhausted and calling it “rest”.

Even me. Also me. Also you. We, us! We’re all in this together. Join me, won’t you.

That sounds simple, right, but it is not always easy.

Especially when you are used to being the person who makes things work.

The one who remembers.

The one who checks.

The one who plans.

The one who carries the invisible list in her head.

So these days, I am trying to balance differently.

Less guilt.
More honesty.

Sometimes that means saying no.

Sometimes it means ordering food.

Sometimes it means letting the laundry sit there and humble everyone in the house.

Ahhh, who am I kidding?

Laundry gets done on the daily in this house!

And sometimes it also means admitting:

I cannot pour from an empty cup, but I can definitely drink coffee from one and pretend I am fine.

So no, I have not mastered balance. I don’t think I ever will.

Instead, I am learning to stop abandoning myself in the name of being responsible.

And realistically?

That feels like a pretty good start.

So tell me, are you balancing your life right now, or are you also rotating and hoping nobody notices?

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Oh my, so aptly put! Balance?- Yeah right! There are days I just want to sit and throw a full out tantrum! I can't do it all, and yes, all of the things you mention do pull at us all!

The world in which we live is speeding up almost daily-or so it seems. I like your analogy of rotation! Me time is important, and I think that we all suffer not giving to ourselves what we give to everything else. That however, is a learned thing-time for yourself, and can take years, if ever to master! I'm still working on that, lol!

Thank you for your honest take on balance and may we all eventually find what works for each of us! Take care and have a lovely day! !LADY

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Oh thank you dear @Elizabethbit.. I felt every word.

That “rotation” lesson really hits hard, right?

I love what you said about me time being learned. It sounds so simple, but it really can take years of effort to stop treating ourselves like the thing that comes last.

May we all keep finding our own rhythm, with a little more grace and a little less guilt.

Thank you again, !LADY. Your words made me smile. 🌸🌸🌸

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This was such a refreshing read! 😄 I laughed at the idea of "rotating" instead of balancing because that honestly feels much closer to reality.

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Haha, imagine balancing coffee, unfinished thoughts, and trying to remember which responsibility is shouting the loudest? 😆

Sometimes we just move where we are needed, and hopefully remember to include ourselves in that rotation too.

Thank you @jane1289 😊 Great questions this week.

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