Slow Doors

I tend to rush things.

Just ask my wife.

Once I start, I just kind of want things done and out of the way to the point that I don't end up finishing stuff properly, or at all if it takes too long. However, I have also been trying to change this behaviour somewhat and spend more time enjoying the process of getting things done, rather than just looking for the result. This has been easier since the stroke a handful of years ago, because I can switch my brain off pretty easily, which means not having to compete too much with the "this sucks" narrative when doing something boring and repetitive. Once that voice is gone, it is surprising how enjoyable the mundane is.

Like painting doors.


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While I was on a schedule for the painting of the floors due to our trip away for a few days, the doors don't have quite as much rush on them, though I would like to move on and get other things started (and finished) if I can. I have slowed the process down a bit though so that instead of pushing to get the result, I am doing it a bit at a time so I can spend more hours with Smallsteps while she is on holiday. Not all the hours, but quite a few. I think it is good for kids o have time to themselves to be creative also, and during those periods I head down to the basement and say "I have to get this done" even though there isn't a real need to get it done right then. As a result, Smallsteps has been building Lego, reading books and playing the piano.

She enjoys the space also - but she rarely chooses it for herself.

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These are the sanded doors.

They were pretty ratty to begin with and even after a sand, wood filler and another sand, they don't look too much better. Hopefully though, once they have a top coat on them they will be passable enough for the basement and more importantly, my wife. I picked up the colour tonight and the panel walls that lead down the basement stairs will be the same colour, but will be in a different paint, so I didn't get that yet. I spent six hours doing a white undercoat in the stairway yesterday and then after everyone went to bed, another four hours painting one side of the doors so I could spend most of today with Smallsteps, and well - it all still looks pretty bad.

All the doors have a light side, and a deep aquamarine side. The light side covers quite well, but the darker side still shows through. It doesn't matter too much though, as the colour my wife chose after some nudges to a lighter tone, isn't too far off it so it won't affect the end result now.

What took the time last night was that two of the doors are missing the locking mechanism for the handle and while I bought replacements, they are much smaller than whatever was in there before. To make them fit means aligning them with the old hole, and then chocking and gluing wood into the slot to hold them in place. It is a functional job, not a pretty job, but these particular doors are in the worst condition and also heading only to two small storage areas, so it isn't a make or break thing. It is the first time I have done this kind of fix, and given time (and patience) I think I could do a pretty good job of it, if required.

I was going to do some more work tonight, but I have a meeting in the morning and it might be the last warmish day for a while, so will spend the rest of the day with Smallsteps. She is keen to go for a swim so I will take her to the local beach for a bit, until she starts shivering. There has been so much rain pouring the last week, the lakes are far cooler than they were.

And then I guess, back to go-slow work.

I will be glad when this phase is finished, but I don't plan on rushing.

Taraz
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Minutenen are always ready.

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Minutenen

Is this finnish? :D

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hehe, no.. it goes back to the revolutionary war in usa. the guys with muskets who could go fight in a minute.. always ready.

but in modern world,.. maybe it refers to something in the bedroom??

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It's interesting how DIY projects force us to slow down, even when our natural instinct is to just cross the finish line. Retrofitting old doors with different-sized lock mechanisms is always a test of patience, but it sounds like you’ve turned the repetitive work into a good rhythm.

Also, taking that break to go to the beach with Smallsteps before the warm weather fades is definitely the right priority—the doors aren't going anywhere! Hope you both enjoyed the swim despite the cool water.

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I think slowing down and enjoying the process is sometimes better than only focusing on finishing quickly. It is nice that you are also making time for Smallsteps while working on the doors. Some projects take patience, but the result becomes more meaningful when we enjoy the journey.

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Some projects take patience, but the result becomes more meaningful when we enjoy the journey.

I have so little patience these days. I am trying though. You?

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Work should be seen as a pastime and when we get tired, we should put it aside for a while

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Or perhaps entertainment should be seen as a past time, and we should do more work! :D

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I think it is good for kids o have time to themselves to be creative also

Meanwhile I was a terrible parent for my "benign neglect" XD

they were not neglected, I was always monitoring, just very definitely not always making sure they were entertained/had something to do outside of excursions/"schoolwork"/any time we were spending together just because

Hmm looks like your aesthetics problem is going to be trying to make the doors look "vintage"/"antique" rather than just ratty XD I'm sure they'll scrub up to some value of fine ^_^;

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I was a neglected kid to the extreme - I don't recommend that level, but these days too many parents are like slaves to their child's schedule.

I don't want them to look vintage - I just want them neat. My opinion might not matter though :D

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Yeh nah definitely not to that extent. They had everything else covered to the best of my ability, it was literally I didn't schedule them to within an inch of their lives with all the activities and while I would hang out and play with them sometimes there were periods of time where they just had to find something to do and I do agree that it was very good for them.

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Yep, that is what I assumed. I think there are many parents these days that do it because it is easier for them - it makes them feel like good parents.

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On the one hand, if you're one of those people who are very easily manipulated (and probably are very convinced that you're not) you might be relatively easily swayed by all the advice out there telling you to get your literal newborns into this, that or the other thing now to start developing skills and greatly enhance their prospects in life.

On the other hand even if you're pretty chill and you're just supporting your kids in doing something that they love it can still be a lot of back and forth between activities if your kids happen to love different things and those different things have to of course be on the same day in different places at the same time so I'd contend the "easier" XD

The most extreme case I've ever seen was a parent who was saying how they and their kids were up at 4am daily because there was some activity on before school, then they basically went straight from that activity to school, and then immediately after school it was rushing off to other activities (of which gymnastics was one of many) and then weekends were filled with yet more organised sports. From how it was told it didn't sound like they had much free/downtime.

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Slow doors can be frustrating, particularly when we are eager to move forward. However, I think many worthwhile opportunities require patience before they finally open.

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Sometimes I wonder if I should just leave all the doors off :D

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We have that in common. I used to rush through mundane tasks like painting. Now I take my time doing almost all tasks. Found the quality of work seems to be a little better. Go figure :)

Hopefully we get some shots of the completed basement. Doors, floors and all. Fruits of your labor and all. :)

My garage and shed are still calling. Father-in-law was here a couple days. We moved some things around, but not much. Still a work in progress.

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Found the quality of work seems to be a little better. Go figure :)

It is almost like there is a correlation in there somewhere...

I will definitely put some photos, but considering the work it has taken, I am not sure it will be worth it :D

Moved some things around - a couple beers? :D

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Moved some things around - a couple beers? :D

Nah, we actually got a little done.

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They don't look too bad from a distance! I'm sure they look better than you think up close too. I probably tend to rush through stuff I am not looking forward to doing as well. My wife would probably say I absolutely do.

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Nah, up close they are ratty also. However, they will do!
Rushing is fine sometimes - but with things that are going to be around for a while, I think it is probably better to take at least a little time and care.

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I don't disagree with you there!

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It’s interesting how the most difficult experiences, such as the stroke you mention, end up teaching us the most valuable lessons. I love that idea of ‘switching off the negative narrative’ to simply enjoy everyday life. Because sometimes we get so fixated on the end result that we forget that life happens in the ‘meantime’. It’s brilliant that mischievous Smallsteps is also finding her own space there whilst you’re working. Best wishes!

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It has been good for Smallsteps being in this house, as there is always stuff to do for the parents, and she always has stuff to find to do :)

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I actually enjoy painting. I wouldn't mind spending days on painting the doors. All you need is really good paint and multiple layers of it with drying in between.

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Yeah, the prep work has been the worst and the doors aren't really worth the effort - but since we aren't buying new ones, it is fine. New ones would be incredibly expensive, because all four doors are different sizes, none of them are close to standard.

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It's interesting how DIY projects often double as a mirror for how we handle life in general. Taking a step back from the "just get it done" mindset to actually enjoy the repetitive work—and using that time to give Smallsteps space to do her own creative thing—is a great perspective shift. The doors might be a headache with the alignment and undercoats, but balancing the work with a quick beach trip makes the whole process worth it. Great read!

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Sometimes I wish I was more mechanically minded, or went into some kind of assembly work where I could just sit and do stuff following guides.

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Learning never ends if you have passion in that you can learn on of the skills.

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